Open Relationships...

Open relationships...
I have been hearing a lot about open relationships lately. I don't know if it's an old idea that is becoming more accepted and open in society - or just more people are doing it now. Some celebrity couples you may know who are in open relationships:
Um... Charlie Sheen (maybe a bad example)
Demi and Ashton
Pink and Carey
Will and Jada
Tilda Swinton
Mo'nique
There are a tonne of blogs written by people in open relationships - writing about their husbands and boyfriends, and their life in general.
The basic argument is that its not natural to be monogamous. That relationships are healthier if they are open and have one main relationship and multiple side relationships/one night stands/"play" partners.
I'm not sure how I feel about this. I think the guilt of being with someone else would kill me. Plus, I have zero desire to be with anyone when I'm in a relationship with someone else. On the opposite side - I could not lay in bed at night knowing that my husband/boyfriend is "playing" with someone else... I think that, personally, would be horrible.
How do you feel about open relationships?

The Future Could Be Pink!

So, you know what helps when you're caught in a rut. Thinking about the life you will no longer have. The family you will no longer have. Thinking about how your husband no longer wishes to be with you - and you don't know why?

Thinking about the future!

Thinking about my future apartment to be exact. This is going to be the cleanest, most organized apartment EVER. OCD tendencies rejoice!

Everything at your fingertips!

And the closet – oh the closet!

It can be anyway that I want it to be. Set up how I like it… it can be PINK!

  

What gets you through a rut?

Trust Your Instincts Girls!

No matter what they tell you - "you're over-reacting", "you're acting crazy", "Everything is fine", "there is nothing going on" - TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!!

He doesn't look at you quite the same way.

He's a little more distant.

He doesn't tell you he loves you often as he used to.

He no longer touches you for no reason.

He no longer holds your hand when you go out.

He no longer spends as much time with you as he used to.

He seems to be going out a bit more than normal.

If you THINK there is something wrong - chances are there IS!

Trust yourself. Womens intuition is REAL! Don't let anyone tell you anything different!

You can feel it in the pit of your stomach, bubbling up to your brain. Your mind races, your heart throbs, and you KNOW - you know... you don't THINK - you know.

You need to trust this. This is real, and you are right!

My husband was acting "strange" for about 2 months. I asked him over and over what was going on - nothing. You're acting strange - no I'm not. Something is happening - no it's not. You are being different - nope, I'm exactly the same as I always was.

You know what? I was right. My instinct - starting at the pit of my stomach and bubbling up to my brain - was right. Dead - on! Soon - I will be separated. I will be a statistic. I still cannot tell you why. I still cannot think of a reason, a fight so bad, something that cannot be worked out.

Crazy Train To Single Town!!!!

On Friday, August 20th, 2010 - exactly 1 month and 1 day before our 1 year anniversary, my husband informed me he no longer wished to be married. We have been together for 5.5 years, and just now he realized I am not the one for him.

It's all very confusing and all kind of tangled and intertwined in my head.

He has no real reason - there are no crazy out of control fights, there is no cheating or illicit affairs. We get along great. We still love each other. We are each others best friends. We have similar personalities. We just weren't meant to be married. hmmm....

So... that's where I am. On the crazy train to single-town. Unsure why I'm on the train, but thankfully, I will be so busy getting our home ready to sell - I won't even have time to worry about it.

It's the getting into my new apartment - alone - and being forced to sit and wonder that I worry about. Worry about the future I will no longer have - the family we will no longer have.

So the last few days I have been informing people what has happened, which I think - has to be one of the hardest parts. The wound is still gaping open and gushing blood - and you have to talk about it - which I do not want to do. It makes it more real to say it outloud somehow.

You start with family and friends, and move onto co-workers. No matter who you tell - the women all respond the same way. THAT ASSHOLE! You can see the wounds from their past flair up in their eyes. No matter what happened - no matter who's fault it is, no matter how it went down, HE is the asshole, they are on YOUR side, they will give you their left arm if you need it, you take ANYTHING you need, you take all the time you want, you call me at any hour - day or night, and I am there for you. Rage in their eyes, nostrils flairing, all their ex heart breaks running through their head - they are there for you. No questions asked. That is also the one good thing about being a woman in a break up. Men rarely get the support, sympathy, and pure nasty man bashing that women get.