Breaking Up Is Hard To Do...

Breaking up is hard. Especially if you don't know WHY you broke up, and no one is really willing to inform you. I am still unclear as to why my husband and I separated. Things were going along just fine. No problems that I could see. Then, one day, he had to start "thinking about his life". Fine - we all go through that stage. Usually it's work related, or do I want to go back to school - something. Not hey, I think I'm gonna leave my wife and not tell her why!
This makes it extremely difficult to move on. How can you possibly move on after this? You have zero closure, no idea what went wrong, no idea what happened. Just one minute everything is good - the next you're single.
I have asked him why - he says I seemed unhappy. That seems like a bullsh*t answer if you ask me. If I seemed unhappy wouldn't you TALK to me about it? Really?
The fact that he refused to speak to me about anything that was going on, refused counselling, didn't even attempt to work things out is completely heart breaking. How do you recover from that? How do you get over that? How can you move on from that?
The answer? You can't. You simply can't.
I think it's extremely selfish. Him not telling me what happened is holding me back from healing, and that is an incredibly cruel and selfish thing to do. Even if it's something hurtful that I wouldn't like to know - it would be better than constantly wondering what happened. It would be closure.
Have any of you ever been through this? If yes, how did you get over it?

DON'T LIE!!!

Don't lie. There is no real reason or excuse to do so. If you feel the need to lie - then you probably shouldn't be doing what you're doing anyway. Flat out lying, omitting parts of the truth, being vague on important details (for example yada yada yada from Seinfeld) are all forms of lies - deceit.
You may believe with full confidence that the person you are lying to will NEVER find out - how could they?
A friend of mine could be a friend of yours and may hear something. I may run into someone whom you involved in a lie who has no idea what I'm talking about. Facebook may post something that you quickly delete and don't expect me to see. Someone may tell me that they saw you somewhere else... there are many ways.
Eventually, I will question you on the lie... "Did you have fun at the circus with the bear?" - all the while I know full well that you were at a baseball game with the rabbit. Now, I 100% want you to tell me that the circus was cancelled and you went to the ball game with the rabbit. I don't want to believe you're lying to me. However, if you say the circus was amazing - bear loved the clowns... I will be sad... but I will not tell you I know you're lying. And in those few short moments, I become a liar. I don't want to be a liar.
This little lie - no matter how small starts to pull apart the fibers of our relationship. Unravel the sweater if you will. I will always see that little lie in you and wonder what you are hiding, what else you've lied about...
If you feel the need to lie - think twice about what you're doing. Chances are you shouldn't be doing it. Also ask yourself if this lie is worth the relationship of the person you're lying to.
Unless its a surprise gift... then lying is ok :)

Single and Ready to Mingle?

 Are you SINGLE and ready to MINGLE?
I am not... but if YOU are - get a dog. Seriously... get a dog.

Cutie-pie... I know... Isn't she adorable?

Anyway, I cannot walk her with at least one or two guys stopping to look at her - pet her - chat. And - if you walk around the same time everyday ... you usually run into these guys over and over. They always recognize you and your dog and always stop to chat for a minute.

Some of them are walking their dogs, some are going for a run, some are riding their bikes... but they stop and chat. Sometimes day after day you talk to the same guy.

If this said guy is also walking his dog - this can lead to "play dates" with your dogs. You guys are forced to hang out for a couple hours while your dogs play. Sometimes you end up just walking together... its great.

Sometimes you just end up standing there and talking and the dog gives you the "come on! I'm getting bored" look.

Plus - you get to have a dog... it's the greatest!