The Exception - Not The Rule...

So I watched "He's Just Not That Into You" the other night. It is pretty accurate in an over the top way. I remember being single wondering why didn't he call... I thought the date went well... Maybe he's just busy... Maybe he's away... The truth was, he just wasn't interested.

I also agree with the movie that your girlfriends will say anything to make you feel better - he is intimidated by your: smarts, looks, maturity, etc. All example of lies - he again, is not interested.

A bit farther into the movie they speak of "exceptions" and "rules". Basically, the rule is if he calls - he's not interested, if you're the "other woman" or a "rebound" it will never work out. Then they speak of "exceptions to the rule" those girls who are the other woman, who don't get a call for months at a time, and the couple eventually ends up living happily ever after.

During my life, for many many years, I was the rule. He didn't call - he never called. I'm the rebound - it never works out - it only last a week - he never calls. Now, I am the exception. When I first met my future husband, we were not friends. I did not like him at all. He was my team lead at a job, and I thought he was lazy and could not care less about his job/life. Then I started training to be a team lead, and he was my supervisor for that - he became friends, and we started to hang out - going to movies and coffee. He had a serious girlfriend at the time who was totally fine with us hanging out. Next thing I knew, they broke up, and we started dated - making me the rebound. I thought forsure - that I was the rule. This would not work out. The rebound never lasts. I now know, that I was the exception.