Apparently, it's common...
Me: Yah, JP decided he no longer wished to be married
You: Really? Why? What happened?
Me: I don't know
You: Well why is he leaving?
Me: I don't know
You: What reason did he give?
Me: He doesn't know - he just no longer wants to be married
You: You know, that same thing happened to (insert your family member or friend here) me, my sister, my brother, my cousin, my neighbor...
Isn't that weird?
Do people really wake up one day and say - meh, I'm done being married - time to move on. And, for the people that do do this - do you think about the consequences? How you are affecting the other person? And, if you're in my position, did you not think about this a year ago? I've been married for less than a YEAR! could you not figure this out BEFORE we got married? Really?
Apparently that is also quiet common. Ending a marriage (especially your first marriage) within the first 2 years. They call this your "practice marriage". Hmmmm... I wish I had heard of this BEFORE we got married.
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Exactly, if people have any doubt whatsoever they shouldn't be getting married! Our friend announced that he was getting separated which would ultimately lead to divorce and they had been married for a little over a year. Lies were involved. But his wife was completely shocked that he wanted out. While his friends and family were not.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it happens. I'm sorry that it happened to you. I believe there is someone amazing out there for you and I pray you will be able to trust in that relationship when it comes!
I am so sorry. I have seen it many times and wanted to do it myself many times but we struggled and fought and cried and actually did separate a few times but we always came back together. Marriage is not easy and I think it is kind of sad that people don't have the respect for marriage that they used to. It has become a piece of paper that can be changed instead of a covenant or commitment to your partner and to God. We have been married 10 years as of July and this month will make 16 years since we have been together. I have to say there have been so many times I left and he left and we fought and cried and hurt. But, any commitment is hard. I am so sorry that this happened to you so soon. It isn't fair and you have to know that you are better and it is not your fault.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry! That really sucks. At least children aren't involved. Starting over isn't easy, but it can be exciting. Enjoy this time of being selfish and focusing on YOU.
ReplyDeleteI would LOSE MY MIND!,, I'm just saying.
ReplyDeleteIt sucks. My starter marriage lasted 19 year, so I don't know exactly what you're going through, but I have had someone tell me he just didn't want to be married any longer. Turned out he had a reason -- a tighter, younger, stupider version of me who he wanted to be with. Any way you slice it, it sucks. And I'm so sorry you're going through it.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I didn't know of this phenomenon myself, but I guess now that you have mentioned it, I've noticed it - mostly with distant friends from high school. I'm happy I've "met" you online, and I'm excited to follow your journey. As you know, I was with the same guy for 7 years, and we cancelled our wedding three months out because he was lying to me about a lot of stuff too. I'm just starting over as well - and jumped pretty fast back into dating, which I can't decide if it was a mistake or a good thing. Kept me busy, I've been having fun, but there are times when I'm not sure I'm ready. Either way, you seem so strong and I know you are going to get through this!
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